now I see why you have such strong feelings about druggies. I have the same issues in my family and it baffles my mind why the court system doesn't keep them locked up. putting them in jail for a little bit and putting them back on the streets just makes things worse in my opinion. It's very sad to see someone go down this road, especially when you want to help and that person doesn't want it. I've been hurt again and again by the person in my life who has a similar problem but with that said, I still don't understand the need to blast someone all over the internet when you know damn well the only people you are hurting are the love ones she left behind. the grieving process is so much worse for them because they are probably left to think "if only we tried harder..." like I said, you can only do so much for someone that doesn't want help. It's a awful, heartbreaking, helpless feeling when you can't get that person better. sometimes I feel as though my love one is already gone...like you said Lynn's family lost her a long time ago. That may be true but it doesn't make it hurt any less. I couldn't imagine dealing with that helpless feeling and then actually losing someone and having to read all over the internet how awful she may have been.